September 23

Be a Mentor (Not a Tormentor) with Your Newer Service Staff


The following is a guest blog post from my colleague Marilyn Suttle, author and speaker. Read Marilyn’s bio at the end of the article:

I was asked to be on an executive panel for service and support professionals for an annual event. One of the more animated discussions focused on ways to best integrate young service staff into the workforce. Bright young workers have a lot to offer – fresh perspectives, a finger on the pulse of today’s young consumers, and total comfort using technologies that can sometimes rattle those of us who haven’t been using it since preschool.

Along with the positives, there are some challenges that service managers need to address in order to fully engage their younger service team members.

I was happy to see that most of the leaders in the room were eager to compare notes and take a positive approach to mentoring their newer staff. It isn’t always easy. With multiple generations working side-by-side, internal customer service needs to be taken just as seriously as external customer service.

A few months ago, I listened as an irate employee in her fifties gave me a laundry list of complaints about a young employee who worked beside her. According to the 50-something, her younger associate suffered from the following behavior:

  • She disrespected authority
  • She questioned policies and procedures
  • She took credit for things that the older woman had helped her to do
  • She wasn’t great at calming down angry customers

Of course, nobody wants to be disrespected, but I asked her if she’d play with me a bit. I asked her to find a positive quality in each of her negative judgments. For example:

  • “Disrespecting authority” can be seen as “preferring to be self-governing.”
  • “Questioning policies” can be seen as “being curious to learn.”
  • “Taking credit” can be seen as “wanting to be seen as accomplished.”
  • “Not great at calming angry customers” can be seen as “needing feedback to improve.”

These interpretations are not an excuse for unacceptable conduct. Instead, it helps you drop negative judgments and puts you in a more resourceful place to mentor employees. Imagine being mentored by someone who had a negative laundry list about you. Would that person become your mentor or your tormentor? Leaders who see the best in their staff, while holding clear and enforced expectations for service excellence, have the most success.

About Marilyn Suttle

Marilyn Suttle is the author of “Who’s Your Gladys? How to Turn Even the Most Difficult Customer into Your Biggest Fan.” Marilyn delivers service excellence keynotes and workshops to multi-cultural audiences. She specializes in creating “Suttle Shifts” in the way people think and act to produce massive results. Marilyn can be reached at or visit

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